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June 8, 2017 8:43 pm  #21


Re: Forum Jargon for Newbies

Bboop60 wrote:

Thank you for all the info. I'm fairly new with this in my life. I can use any info and help I can get. Thanks for being there to share

Hi Bboop... happy to help. Please feel free to make a post in any of the threads or create your own


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June 18, 2017 12:04 pm  #22


Re: Forum Jargon for Newbies

Hello, I am new to this group. Thank you so much for sharing all the acronyms. They are a great help, but I think it will be awhile before I remember all of them. Have a great day.


Thinking of you, Lisa  
 

June 18, 2017 7:04 pm  #23


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@Lostgirl
          I can very well understand where you are coming from. I think I had a suspicion the something up going on with my BH. He finally came out to be probably 2-3 years ago. We are married 32 years next week. I  have decided to stay together. We r working very hard at it. We are going to a councilor at least once a month. It is a daily struggle. The one time we have learned is that communication is a key factor in making it work. It helps to share things, both good & not so good. It's very hard. But what helped me was to decide what I wanted to do, stay with him or not. Then we worked on it together. I ultimately learned that I had to do what was best for me & us. I still have questions & think I always will. I decided that we had been together for so long & shared so much that I didn't want to give that up. I learned that this was part of who he is & I accepted that.
   Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help you on this journey. Take a deep breath. 


Thinking of you, Lisa  
 

July 11, 2017 11:07 pm  #24


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Hi everyone

I have added 'MOR' (Mixed Orientation Relationship) to our list of acronyms.  I haven't seen it used much but I think it's warranted given that lots of people aren't married these days.  I also noticed that the forum intro (top of the main page) now refers to 'mixed orientation relationships' rather than 'marriages'.  I think this is a good - all encompassing - change. I hope you all concur.

You may have also noticed that I added a few acronyms a while ago that people here dealing with transgender issues have been using in the forum.  I hope y'all are ok about that too. 

Cheers.

Last edited by Steve (July 11, 2017 11:08 pm)


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September 1, 2017 6:55 pm  #25


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What did guys do after you found out your husband is a gay?

 

September 1, 2017 7:06 pm  #26


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Ran as fast as I could to the attorneys office.

 

September 1, 2017 7:19 pm  #27


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Gogo,

Just a suggestion, you might want to start a new thread for yourself so people can respond to you!

 

November 24, 2017 11:48 am  #28


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Kicked him out and told him I'd never ever be with him again and I meant it. Took me 4 days of screaming at him telling him to leave before he went and that was only because I told him if your not gone in the morning I will ring the police and tell them your being aggressive with me, I had to say that as I couldn't bare to look at him. The day after I found out ( even though he was denying it and still does and that he loves me and is broken and all that crap)?i threw out all our wedding pictures , every card he had ever bought me , my wedding ring came off and I changed my Facebook page to single and changed my name on there to my maiden name and Every other thing I could think of to rid him out of my life. I told my family and his family and my friends the day I found out  . I did all that as soon as I found out  that he had gone to gay massage parlours and saw on his phone all the gay porn he had been watching and all the searches for things like gay cinema, gay sauna and other stuff. He said he'd only been twice to sauna and he had just looked at gay sauna but never went ( yeh right) and had never been to gay cinema , I didn't believe him and he had me thinking I was going mad but I knew deep in my heart that he was lying and although very very hard because I still loved him and couldn't imagine my life without him , I did it and I'm so so glad I did , I told myself that I wouldn't let him take anymore of my life and I would get on with life , don't get me wrong I've been down and shed tears and even really really missed him and still do sometimes but I know our life together was a lie and I'm worth more than someone doing that to me, it's not even 3 months yet but I'm proud of the way I've been and just keep going and today I'm feeling very very grateful that it was only 6 years and not 20 or 30 like some people on here

 

March 7, 2018 4:43 pm  #29


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This is very helpful! All these short acronyms are so confusing!

 

March 9, 2018 4:58 am  #30


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You're welcome. If you hang around you'll be an expert in no time  


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