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- lily
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I don't think so Duped - I think she was in a relationship, but it is over, am i correct about that Lea?
- OutofHisCloset
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To me Lea Labas's last post almost looks as though she is no longer in that relationship with her trans partner, but I still can't tell whether she's interested in providing a road map for those in such a relationship for how to support a partner who is transing, or whether she's wanting to make visible our experiences.
- Duped
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Thanks Lily, OOHC
It sounds like a standard essay, for which the general content of this open site is plenty. If it’s not a research study then approaching it as such with specific questions isn’t appropriate. There’s no need for a methodological approach for an essay.
- Scrupulous
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Agreed Duped.
If the so called research groups that report the studies of this general topic used this site as one of the main tools for the real 'results', maybe there wouldn't be so many morons out there trusting and justifying the BS that's spreading. Maybe going off topic but I'm really sick of reading how this behaviour is considered normal esp with the carefully coined 'MSM' > (CDC term for 'self proclaimed straight' men who sleep with men but don't identify as Bi or Gay) as a possible healthy and masculine bonding aid for manliness while supportimg their claims of being 100% straight.
Wow. Whats next...pushing that theory in a required sex ed class for 11-year old boys that haven't even thought of another penis other than their own?
If that's the case then we'll know who got added to the devils payroll.
This rant isn't referring to born that way gay. (That is as long as they don't inadvertently drag other victims into their confused closet wasting years for everyone.) If so compare the thousands of results. For those rare positive ones, it's most likely a case of a sexless marriage to a family-like figure for finanace or age related reasons. That's fine if it's a suitable and arranged agreement for both parties.
This spew is more of a calling out to trained that way via agenda brainwashing or narcissistic self indulgence.
Back to some of those studies:
How does transitioning from gay porn to acting out sexually with other men to wearing womens clothing..all the while losing your erection for women make you more manly?!
WTF Am I missing something?
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Life is like phases of the moon.... We really only see it when it's beautiful, full and in our face.
- Scrupulous
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Back to topic. Yes read all the post you can on here and you'll have enough for an essay and then some.
Even better come up with a chart on the statistics from here and other sources and you'll find the same pattern over and over again.
Bottom line it's a sad picture with the straight spouses left baring all the weight that was piled on them by their devious partners.
Meanwhile the cheaters and liars get applauded for thier strength if they come out or they fly weightless into the arms of another victim to arrange and refill a newer closet.
Then again weight baring is supposed to make us stronger. And from what I've read on here...
It really does.
Life is like phases of the moon.... We really only see it when it's beautiful, full and in our face.
- OutofHisCloset
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"They fly weightless" may be the most effective and beautiful phrase I have read anywhere lately.
- Leah
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Hey guys,
Just to think that they fly weightless is to say that they don’t actually reap what they sow.... they do and will. I believe this abusive way of living will come back to them.
Gotta believe in KARMA - and every action creates an opposite reaction sort of thing....
It helps me sleep at night. They do not get off Scot free....nope. Faustian hells await.... 
I am annoyed though that the LGBT community does not accept and acknowledge just how common collateral damage is in their oh so inspiring outing stories....grrrrr. We have voices. We can use them. But fucking hell, it does seem we just would get more flak than we already have taken... It is impossible really. How do we get this message out there and not look like whiners. I am annoyed at all the political correctness. Gays come out late and take down a whole family.... this is so not part of ‘coming out’ stories.... or have missed something? 🤨
- walkbymyself
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Leah, my husband is not trans so I’m afraid I can’t help you with any personal account but I’m glad you’re calling attention to our plight, and I wish you well. Obviously, a number of us have trust issues, and there are going to be people who prefer not to participate. I’d be interested to see your finished essay.