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Tue Jul 11 10:32 pm  #1


Tedtalks on the topic of being straight in a Mixed Orientation r'ship

Tedtalks on the topic of being straight in a Mixed Orientation r'ship
Are there any?
In my quest for knowledge/information/support...I'm searching but so far all I can find 
are talks from a non-straight view-point

Thanks

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Wed Jul 12 10:01 pm  #2


Re: Tedtalks on the topic of being straight in a Mixed Orientation r'ship

Found one finally....on Youtube

https://youtu.be/PnMrY7ihQPk


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Sat Jul 15 2:33 pm  #3


Re: Tedtalks on the topic of being straight in a Mixed Orientation r'ship

I wonder if how many viewers of this thread 
actually watched the video. I asked my man 
to watch it with me. He did but....just...doesn't 
....seem...to...get....it.
It's like the 'importance' of what is happening to us hasn't registered.


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Sat Jul 15 2:47 pm  #4


Re: Tedtalks on the topic of being straight in a Mixed Orientation r'ship

I watched it. I couldn't totally relate to her 'love and support' of a man who deceived her. But I did relate to her pain.

My ex doesn't seem to see reality either Elexoh, you are probably the only one in the relationship that can. Don't mistake  his denial of reality for anything positive, he is just that, in denial.

YOU need to make the decisions here.

 

Sat Jul 15 3:03 pm  #5


Re: Tedtalks on the topic of being straight in a Mixed Orientation r'ship

Duped wrote:

I watched it. .

 

I'll make a decision when I'm absolutely sure it's the right one for me. 
One thing my man did say, when I asked him "do you trust me?" and he said "what?...not trusting you 
doesn't even factor in how I feel about this" 
And I said "BINGO!!! (I just about blew trumpets!!!)....THAT...is how I USED TO FEEL about you" 

 


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Sun Jul 16 5:06 am  #6


Re: Tedtalks on the topic of being straight in a Mixed Orientation r'ship

I've had so many of those trumpet moments, where you think you've hit the nail on the head and they've finally understood what you mean and how you feel. Every time it's meant nothing, they still don't get it, it doesn't resonate for them for more than that minute.

 

Sun Jul 16 2:16 pm  #7


Re: Tedtalks on the topic of being straight in a Mixed Orientation r'ship

Duped wrote:

I've had so many of those trumpet moments

 

I think you might be right. He said to me this morning "why can't you just live life 
and not think about this all day, every day!"

He just doesn't get it
 


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Sun Jul 16 2:29 pm  #8


Re: Tedtalks on the topic of being straight in a Mixed Orientation r'ship

TED Talks are short - you can only cover so much during a talk (especially when you talk as slowly as this speaker). That being said, I don't think she really imparted much wisdom.  She didn't touch on the betrayal, the confusion, the anger, or the fear.  She didn't distinguish between regular cheating or a gay spouse situation.  She didn't say how to find others in similar situations, despite saying how low the number of us is. And she explained how it's important to have a strong sense of self, but gave no ideas of how to do that. I found it authentic, but utterly unhelpful.

Kel

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Sun Jul 16 4:11 pm  #9


Re: Tedtalks on the topic of being straight in a Mixed Orientation r'ship

Kel wrote:

TED Talks are short - you can only cover so much during a talk (especially when you talk as slowly as this speaker).

I found her quiet manner and measured speech far easier to listen to that somebody on stage to make an impact 
by loudly proclaiming their position. It actually made me go looking for articles & websites she's linked with. So 
really..there's an impetus there to encourage others to research, delve into....learn...and not have everything handed
to them in one big "here you go, this is what you need to do......go do it" 

I felt her pain. I've realised this will be a journey of steps, not a quick jump to "a new me", 
and I may have to feel every ache, each gut-wrenching torment on the way to deciding what 
will be.....


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Sat Jul 29 7:01 pm  #10


Re: Tedtalks on the topic of being straight in a Mixed Orientation r'ship

"you are not alone". I saw this video before finding this board. Those are the words that convinced me someone out there knew what I was going through and sure enough, I found this board. Best message ever.

 

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