Thank you for your response. I keep asking people close to her to just tell me yes or no.. its all i want to know and i can move on now.. Yes it will hurt that i finally know why but the unknown suffering is the worst.. The fact she said she was confused the first time we split up 2 weeks before the final split and the night after she said she cried after sex makes it all more real...
The day after that she split up with me i begged and got her to agree to continue the next 2 weeks she saw her friend lots more whilst i was away and just was not the same that mid weekend the week before we split she said even though i hadnt seen her all week she had to help her friend be a few hours.. i hadnt seen her all week... she was gone the whole day..
I kept getting it wrong... was it a guy.. so kept arguing about male collegues.. and i was wrong ... she said ater 4 months that she hadnt still been with any guy and there are no pointers to being true... she was not a sleeping around sort and dont think she still is?

Just want to know the real reason but im getting blanks from everyone.

I feel like just ending it all as my life just has fallen to pieces... and no one can understand what i am going through.

Thanks

I guess some people are just assholes then...

I couldnt not tell my ex something thsat big if they asked and said it was tearing them apart...

But hey im not an asshole so....

Thanks

Thanks.

I understand that but to destroy someones life and not tell them why is selfish and she made no qualms standing in front of me july last year and tying the knot or trying for a baby october last year.. or having one and losing one.. even buying a camper to go camping a month before..

i dont care if LGBT whatever thionk they have a hard time... its nothing in comparison to what they put others through with there heartless self interest.. its bullshit!! plain and simple..

If it was a straight person who done this they would be a total asshole.. but its fine if they are unsure...

No it isnt!! 

PERIOD!!!

Why marry try for children buy a house together.. within 1 year of break up..

Herr supposed gay friend groomed her plain and simple.. after she lost the baby and i went to work away from my home for us... and all the time she was being groomed by this lesbian....

Should be a bloody law against it!!

Disgusting

my two cents!

Hi eventhori3on,
I am very sorry you find yourself in this situation.
However, I am sure LGBTwhatevers have a much easier time than even 30 years ago. AJ sensed before he married me that he may be gay, sought help from 2 Christian ministers, both told him, "Get married and with faith you will be okay."  In 1982, his employer would not have promoted a single man to an executive position. So, we marry and the only time he wants to be intimate with me is when I am "fertile" and there is a good chance of getting pregnant.
At the time, I had no idea, in fact he didn't tell me until 2000, after we had 2 children. It has taken me 18 years to recognize the man was using me to hide at a time it wasn't safe to be homo or bisexual.  During our "marriage" I set aside my career aspirations and since he left, I have been struggling to acquire viable employment that will support me above the recognized poverty level. 
Oh, and our now adult children told me that their father is living with a man in another country.
Eventhori3on, I agree there should be a law against deliberately misrepresenting oneself. Unfortunately, we are "collateral damage" as the LGBTQ "community" establishes itself as viable in our society.
What has been helping me is the Straight Spouse Network.  Reading about the experiences of others who have found themselves in similar situations has helped me realize I am not alone. For too many years, I was convinced I was alone. Certainly none of my acquaintances (I hesitate to call them "friends") provided any support. In fact, I felt ashamed, because AJ told me to "not tell anybody because it could affect his career, which in turn, could affect his ability to financially provide for our children."  I have never been able to lie and hate keeping secrets for liars....
I have been learning it is imperative to be true to myself.  And I have been learning it is acceptable to feel angry, something which I was taught since childhood was unChristian. But even Jesus felt anger when people misrepresented themselves. Jesus felt angry at the Pharisees because they claimed to be righteous, while they practiced avarice, greed, jealousy, ...
Feeling angry is okay: yes, she used you. And yes, there should be a law.....