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September 19, 2018 8:00 pm  #1


Me, him and the elephant in the room

It sits between us, that elephant, when we talk. It lies between us in the bed at night. It colours every single thought 
I have about him, and clouds my future
I'm off this afternoon to see the counselor I was seeing a few months ago. When we first saw her...as individuals and as a couple...she asked us to measure our individual wish for our r'ship to work..as a percentage. We both said 100% 
I can say now, for me, it's less......

....to be continued


*between a rock and a hard place*
 

October 18, 2018 7:08 pm  #2


Re: Me, him and the elephant in the room

In another thread, I recommended the book, The All or Nothing Marriage, by Eli Finkel. I'd like to recommend it to you, as well. It really does lay out clearly the ways our expectations of marriage has changed over the centuries, and the concurrent stress and joy of mutually attempting the highest level of marriage, where both partners lean on each other and use the marriage as a source of inspiration for their individual self-awareness and aspirations. It's pretty intense, but it also gives a LOT of resources and information on how to map out a path to this idealized partnership. If you both believe you can get back to that 100% level, you may find this book to be of some use to you.

I honestly wish you both the best as you traverse this challenging time in your marriage. However it ends up, I hope you both find peace and happiness.

 

October 18, 2018 9:09 pm  #3


Re: Me, him and the elephant in the room

YazPistachio wrote:

In another thread, I recommended the book, The All or Nothing Marriage, by Eli Finkel. I'd like to recommend it to you, as well...... 
I honestly wish you both the best as you traverse this challenging time in your marriage. However it ends up, I hope you both find peace and happiness.

I bookmarked it for later. Thanks for your well-wishes too, this is one of the most challenging experiences I have known. 
 


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