Recently my husband told me that he is confused after we were arguing because he is depressed and I feel that are lives are going exactly the way we want with our careers and life path etc. When I asked what he meant, he said it again, and said that he couldn’t live with himself if he is what people have teased him about growing up. I asked him what he meant and he said he is confused because he has the desire to kiss and cuddle with another man but not to have sex. He also said he has hung out with guys who he felt he could be more than friends with but not to the point of sex. I told him that doesn’t make sense to me because when we cuddle and kiss it often leads to sex etc. he said that he would off himself before he had sex with a man.  He said that he loves women and that he may be bi sexual but that he is not gay.

I just don’t understand how he can have the desire to be intimate with a man but not want to engage in sex? Sounds to me like he’s in denial and struggles with a lot of self hate about having these urges. Now that i think about it, there were some odd stuff that suggested to me that he wasn’t all the way straight. Before we got married he told me he was gay on the phone then hung up. I had to call him for over an hour before he finally answered again and told me he was joking. I was a teenager then and may have believed him too easily. I am struggling with knowing if he is really truly attracted to me. We have a good sex life, have a 3 year old, and are trying for another baby. I don’t doubt that he loves me, but I continue to doubt whether he is truly attracted to me after learning of his struggle with sexuality. but how could he not be in to womenwith as much sex as we have? I want to talk about it with him but he gets upset because he doesn’t want to acknowledge it. Anyone in a relationship with a bisexual man and everything worked out? Also thoughts on him wanting to be intimate with a man but thinking sex with a man is disgusting???