My girlfriend and I broke up two month ago.She (20) and I (25M) had been dating for 2+ years. We both loved each other very much, and it was truly an amazing relationship for the first year and 9 months. She was head over heels in love with me, wrote me poems and journals and told me how I made her the happiest she's ever been and how I brought her out of her world of darkness (she's had a tragic childhood, sexual abuse and no parents). I did my best to make her feel confident, secure, and happy.

Our first year and a half of dating, our sex life was great. We could only see each other once or twice a week, and when we saw each other, everything was great. No complaints at all. Literally a fairy tale relationship. She told me she never wanted our relationship to end and I made her the happiest she's ever been.

But then she got a new job at an organic grocery store, and her first week there a lesbian girl (Nicole) asked her out. My girlfriend told me about this and told her that she had a boyfriend but she asked me if I had a problem with them just being friends, and I said of course not.Well, over the course of the next 5 months, my girlfriend started changing. She stopped making an effort to see me. She cut her hair which was down to her ass halfway down her back, dyed it from natural dark brown to dark red, got piercings, started smoking weed again, and became a vegan. These are all things influenced by or done to impress Nicole.

One day, my gf texted me and told me that Nicole offered to move in with her and help pay her rent as her work hours were cut in half and she could no longer afford to pay rent. I was not totally okay with this, but it happened anyway. There were nights when Nicole slept over before this that my gf never told me about. They slept in the same bed but my girlfriend justified it by saying these sleep with a pillow between them.. and that she had self control and nothing happened.

Then our sex life stopped. We'd see each other once a week and my girlfriend didn't want to have sex. This hurt me a lot and disappointed me a lot and my girlfriend could tell. The last month of our relationship, we saw each other for a total of 9 hours. She would blow me off with excuses about having to watch her grandpa and all this. She changed her phone password, took down all pictures of us in her apartment, would only use her phone when I left the room.I found the lesbian girl's instagram and saw pictures of my girlfriend on there with hearts and heart eyes. And I found my girlfriend's tumblr and every page and picture she has on there is all lesbian related.The day we broke up, I asked my girlfriend, "Is there something going with your roommate Nicole?", and my girlfriend said "No. I would never do that to you." But we still broke up because of the no sex and my girlfriend said she couldn't love me in all the ways I deserved.

A week later, her cousin invited me out to the bar and saw how hurt I was and he told me I'm taking this too personally as she doesn't like guys. She likes girls. This was just more confirmation of my suspicion. So I called my gf and told her and she said that she can't believe that I would believe him over her.

Since then, I've gone no contact except for when she texted me on my birthday two weeks ago. She told me that she hopes I'm doing well and that I deserve so much happiness and that's she always there for me and that I mean the world to her.
But if I mean the world to her, how could she do this to me? How could she straight up lie to someone who did everything he could for her? I can't know for sure but I'm almost entirely certain that she was cheating on me with this girl for the last month if not more.

Please help, it's the most hurtful experience I've ever been through.My gf also has no idea that I know her tumblr and the girl's instagram.

Last edited by forevermissingher (August 13, 2018 8:26 am)