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July 3, 2018 1:41 pm  #1


GID and trips with "straight married" men

First, I hope everyone is trying to find silk in our situations instead of raw hearts. My question is this: My GID soon-to-be ex always took long trips with big groups of married men. They'd go across the country on cycling trips. They'd go to the beach on golf trips. My GID ex spends most of his time cycling with groups of men on weekends. These are married men. I have NO proof he is gay other than the rumors I hear all the time, his voice, lack of sex unless his eyes are shut tight. No computer porn proof. Just these trips and the excessive amount of time he spends with his "buddies." Honestly, I feel like I'm going crazy. He flat-out denied he's gay. I was told my multiple people his first wife left him after finding him in bed with another man. He yelled when I brought it up. Said, "Call her." I did and she denied it. I heard she was paid off. Why can't I just let this go? I wish to God I had proof like web searches, gay porn, etc.

 

 

July 3, 2018 4:18 pm  #2


Re: GID and trips with "straight married" men

I hear you Piper.  Even when we have tons of proof we want more.  There's gotta be SOME way to do it.  There's a way to fix an Iphone (an app maybe) that's hidden and it texts all of his texts to you.  Any tech savvy friends?  I know a girl who did it.  HMMMMMM.  Where there's smoke...and you've got a gut feeling.  What if you went to see xwife in person?  Promise her you'll never say where you heard it?  I'd be going crazy too!  My GID STBX took alot of those trips too.  All male weeks in Florida, yearly visit to friends' cottage (I was never invited) very weird indeed.  Many hours in gym.  I will venture to guess all that you've heard is absolutely true and that to me is PLENTY of proof!   Why would you hear of something so crazy as to his wife finding him in bed with another guy?  There's gotta be substance to it.   Of course he flat out denies he's gay.  I showed all my proof in black & white to my GIDX and he STILL says he left because of me.  He lies to himself and I swear he believes it!  Its a really crazy phenomenon.  He becomes very angry if I even discuss it.  Why would there be these rumors if it wasn't true?  No straight guy would be accused of that if it wasn't true.  IDK my heart is still pretty raw.  Somebody you WILL find proof.  Nobody's that good. Hmmmmm hidden camera in the back seat of his car?  I'd be so tempted to hire a private investigator!  Maybe you could find one that would sympathize with you and your situation and give you a good deal.  If I was closer I'd follow the fucking deceitful bastard!!!!  Good luck!   


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