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April 10, 2018 9:30 am  #1


Random Graffiti

Graffiti

Last edited by JenS (April 29, 2018 5:03 am)

 

April 10, 2018 12:46 pm  #2


Re: Random Graffiti

Does the universe send messages to oneself on a bathroom wall?  that's somewhat imponderable .  

And a random experience of one individual finding a message written by one other individual is not necessarily an indication of prevalence either but taken alongside what we are all seeing around us I think we can conclude that it is happening far more than we imagined, it's happening a lot.  I mean a lot.  Here I am in a fairly remote part of the world and it is happening all around me and let's not forget the ladies.  Let's not forget there's a huge percentage of lesbians in the closet.

There are so many of these cheating spouses that it paints a very different picture of society for me than I had imagined.  I remember my parent's generation talking about marriages 50 years ago and they were saying that the worst ones, the most unhappy marriages were where there were differing levels of sex drive - i.e. it was believed that some people liked sex more than others and it wasn't even an idea that maybe this was due to same sex attraction.  Let alone that they were acting on it.

Many many closeted spouses that I see around me have an attitude of entitlement, they seem to think it's their god-given right to use a straight for their mainstream social position and conduct their true life alongside it.  And when you think about it it's not so surprising, they are only doing what their parent did before them.  But somehow the pain of the straight parent is thoroughly unacknowledged and I find that hard to understand.

How hidden it all is.

They have social groups round here - oh look such and such has joined that particular golfing group, or those two go fishing together.  The women are more discreet than the men but I think they are likely to be just as active.

 

April 10, 2018 12:48 pm  #3


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I have felt for a long time that there are many, many more out there than we realize.  I feel like now, I see it happening all around me.  I don't know if it's that my eyes are now open to it so I notice it more or if I'm hyper-sensitive and imagining it.  I'm pretty level headed so I tend to think I'm not imagining it. 

The funny thing is that when I see it, I get a weird feeling like oh, that guy standing next to his wife is totally on the DL.  And then a few minutes later I'll get additional information like: he's the youth minister at a church or something along those lines where I feel like a lot of people hide out behind their cloak of religiousness. 

It's a scary thought.  I'm not sure if it's worse knowing or not knowing. 

 

April 10, 2018 2:56 pm  #4


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5 years ago I never looked at full-bodied women (my assumption of the type of woman my partner preferred...full-bodied with attitude....sexy) on the street...thinking "is that her? And 5 years ago when his phone beeped....I didn't ask him "who was that?" Then when I learned it wasn't women but men he was interested in....my whole mindset had to do a 180 and question why he was shaving his genitals and anus. 

If my mind wasn't  full of the thoughts that my partner has fantasies about men, and all the crap that's happened in the last 18 months hadn't happened....the gay weather presenters on BOTH our local tv channels would have me thinking "good on them for their inclusiveness....not leave a sour taste in my mouth (my man might be gay, I hate them all). A transgender sashaying & strutting along the footpath would make me smile at their colourful aura, not cringe. The workmate he cycled round to see (when he's the most unsocial man I know) would make me glad, not suspicious. It seems to me that half the people on the street may be gay. Our new neighbours are gay! The barista who makes my morning coffee....is gay. It seems everybody who's anybody...may turn out to be....gay!

These days. I attach meaning to things I see according to the stresses I'm under..... And the importance of any 'signs' I might see directly relate to how strong or weak I'm feeling at the time

I had a habit of reading our horoscopes. But every time I do it...I attach meaning to it that focus' on the hell I'm going through. So I try not to read them   
 
 


KIA KAHA                       
 

April 10, 2018 4:33 pm  #5


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That's why I stopped dating. I get many chances but thanks to what I've seen lately, I'll stay alone and STRAIGHT.. Thank you! Lot's of confused men don't know why I reject them but I can't take the chance of having anymore closet cases in my life. Maybe one day I'll return but now that I can spot em so easily I'm seeing there's more of a chance I'll be alone for a while. Maybe forever.

There's a sinister agenda behind all this...another topic to avoid at the moment but it's not hard to not see a pattern. This sexual fluidity crap is being pushed to the max and the weakest are at risk. (Read Seans latest)
It doesn't surprise me that the younger age group are all gung ho about it and some of the older are getting some selfish kinks met while crowds around them cheer on a new fucking revolution.

Fine...go screw each other to bits if you want but don't involve me, or my daughter while you bang each other out in places meant mostly for shitting. 

  I stick to my guns about gays in the making. (esp with men) Here's why:

      1. Sexual abuse/promiscuity,forced visual through porn/TV etc is most likely to confuse young minds and skew their idea of sex before they know what it is. For males it has a different imprint than for females. (Compare abuse cases for example..men are more likely to act out with other men. Females being the abusers to girls are more rare.) But the ratio is less studied and known since men are more silent because of shame..guilt etc..
     2. The so-called Kinsey scale does make sense but like any scale can change and alter over time.  Take for example a straight 24 yr old male that rates himself a 1 on the scale because he only watches gay porn on occasion.  But where was he 5 or 10 years ago on the scale before he was introduced to the gay part or before he had access to porn? Most likely he was a 0 and those things didn't enter his head as he was still enjoying the innocent excitement of thinking of a female in various forms.
Since porn has such a strong addiction, in most cases he will continue to watch it and push the boundries to act on it. He may start slow...with what some of these men refer to as a 'blo and go'... (a blow job from an annoymous hookup with a man)..But that is short term. He will graduate to giving, recieving, anal..etc.
(Wow! They graduate to transplanting thier own fucking DNA  into each other!) Now what? 
     3. He's hooked on a new game that he never thought he'd engage in. Swearing and tearing away one Taboo at a time that he'd never do..kissing, cuddling and emotions being the last. But they don't call it love making for nothing....
     4. When a person practices ANYTHING they enjoy, they do not want to stop that practice. As they get older they get better. The random blo and go turns into finding a fuck buddy=FB (not Face Book) or a friend with benefit (FWB) since it get's harder to cheat on their wives as time goes on. When they do find one..and they will because that's what they are all looking to find, someone like themselves.. married..discreet...that understands them and respects each others marriage arragement (WTF!?)
But alas..He's no longer a strange face..Now kissing, cuddling, emotions and feelings become involved...always.
    5. During these phases there are other things that come into play:
> Thier 'manly' equipment no longer works with a woman. The only way it does is if they think of being with a man...For whatever reason they've crossed the line and they can't perform so they make the woman suffer.
> Women (well most that have a God-given gift of perception) start or felt all along a creepiness about the guy. Most normal women will shy away from those types as we don't want to catch STDs and it basically damages our self esteem when we think or find out our SO's are with the same sex. We are repulsed and it shows. So now the man has lesser options from the kind of women that he prefers. Hell even alot of Bi-sexual women admit that they don't want a bi-sexual or wtf ever kind of man. Double standards? Maybe. But I guess even if I were bi I'd still want my man to be a man. That's a hard thinking process so I won't even go there. But back to my assumption (and forgive me if I'm wrong but gaging from the polls) Straight women DO NOT want to be with MSM!
So now the men who have slowly allowed themselves to EVOLVE into more of a feminine role regardless of how they do it....are limited with us. But since the men are sooooo available..they keep up their filth and get stuck in thier own mire. 
They'll continue and just try to keep their mates long enough to where they (the women esp) don't stand much of chance for starting over due to age, health, finances etc...
So these pieces of shit continue to use us as much and as long as they can.
Confidents and caretakers. But they'll turn their nose up at the real love we offer. SEX! But turn around and blame us for lack there of. "Oh my wife won't have sex with me anymore" BS...
(Well why the hell would she?!!? No telling where your nasty ass has been!)

Okay I'm sorry if I rambled on but I've seen very little to back up the long term effects of these assholes actions ever being a positive. Did I mention the DNA part? Fucking disgusting!
I don't research the gay women part because I could care less as they are lest likey to effect me or my family...
But the men...
Let's stand up and LOSE them and quit enabling them!
 

Last edited by Scrupulous (April 10, 2018 6:37 pm)


Life is like phases of the moon.... We really only see it when it's beautiful, full and in our face. 
 

April 10, 2018 4:44 pm  #6


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This seems to have always been the best kept secret in the world...

 

April 10, 2018 5:34 pm  #7


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yes, I am thinking the same, Paraceleus.

 

April 10, 2018 5:41 pm  #8


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I want to gag..just gag.
 

 

April 10, 2018 6:23 pm  #9


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Scrupulous wrote:

.....There's a sinister agenda behind all this...another topic to avoid at the moment but it's not hard to not see a pattern. This sexual fluidity crap is being pushed to the max and the weakest are at risk. (Read Seans latest)
It doesn't surprise me that the younger age group are all gung ho about it and some of the older are getting some selfish kinks met while crowds around them cheer on a new fucking revolution..... 

 

As an aside, but still referring to the young & impressionable.....my youngest son has his first girlfriend, with all the hearts & flowers & lovey-dovey stuff it comes with. He said "I think I love her" 
I want to scream "nooooo....I was your father's first lover, and look what's happened!". Live a little first! Learn about the person YOU are first before because the person you are may change
 


KIA KAHA                       
 

April 10, 2018 6:54 pm  #10


Re: Random Graffiti

Para
You trolling? 


Life is like phases of the moon.... We really only see it when it's beautiful, full and in our face. 
 

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