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Support » It's Finally Over » November 4, 2018 9:18 am

Tyurk
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Omg I was just thinking this true life story should be a book or movie. Wow. What a crazy way for it to end. I hope you find your peace.

General Discussion » The porn tells the truth? » November 4, 2018 8:57 am

Tyurk
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I was thinking. I am told he is Bi not gay, but I have access to his browsing history. Even when he is watching straight porn, its all related around ass. Twerking videos, ass sluts, ect. Thats when he is " trying" to not watch tranny porn. Its just interesting. It gives me the feeling that even though he wants to have sex with me and gets mad that I still dont want to, he is still GID. I dont even think Bi. Cause when he watches the tranny porn, he loves the dirty talk videos telling him how he is a faggot.

I think the porn tells the truth.

Support » Just coming to terms » October 28, 2018 9:31 pm

Tyurk
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OutofHisCloset wrote:

Tyurk,
 Why don't you turn that around and say, "I don't understand why you don't see why your watching porn with transexuals and gay men is hurtful to me.  If you really loved me, you would not do it, even if you didn't understand, because you can see how it hurts our relationship and me."

Yep, I have. Its an endless argument that goes nowhere. We cannot seem to agree on this so I dont see a way for it to work.

Support » Just coming to terms » October 28, 2018 11:52 am

Tyurk
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StrongerThanIKnew wrote:

Also, if you are generally fairly compliant, be prepared for your spouse to "push back" a bit when you stand up to him. I say this not to discourage you, but just so you are prepared.

This is so true. My STBX GIDH doesnt understand why watching a little tranny porn or gay porn isnt ok with me. He says I must not really love him if I cant accept this part of him. Its hard to be put in this guilty place and its not fair.

General Discussion » Here...again... » October 23, 2018 7:18 pm

Tyurk
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Hopeful10 wrote:

I feel like my options I lose everything or i ignore everything,

Right?! What a shitty place to be.

General Discussion » Working without a net . . . » October 21, 2018 12:03 pm

Tyurk
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Lynne wrote:

Tyurk wrote:

How about he understands what he has done, be humble and sorry and try to change?

This is what most of us don't experience after discovery. And when you think about it you shouldn't be surprised. If they were capable of feeling genuine empathy they would have never tricked us and used us to begin with.  
 

Lynne,
Exactly. I agree. I think without this, its impossible to stay together unless the straight spouse decides to "change". But even then, idk if thats possible either. Its a terrible place for us all.

General Discussion » Working without a net . . . » October 21, 2018 10:58 am

Tyurk
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Spacedout,
I am so sorry you are going through this. I dont reply to posts very often but yours actually physically upset me so I have to. I have so many curse words for this person in your life. He is being a manipulative snake. It seems you know this and good for you for moving into another room. As for the men just have different sex excuse...wtf! No shit its different, we arent idiots. But sorry, thats not an excuse. There is no excuse for what he has done. He lied, you were lead into this blindly then hit with a unexpected bomb! Now you have to "understand"? I dont think so. How about he understands what he has done, be humble and sorry and try to change? But these men just want us to accept this and allow it usually. These men use all kinds of excuses...its different, it releases stress, they were abused, its who I am ect. Well, bottom line is now you have also been abused and traumatized. You need to take care of you. If your line is drawn at no sex with other men and he is already openly saying he wont stop, then run run run!

Get in touch with a good lawyer.
Good luck to you. Take care of yourself.

Support » A gay man hit on him now he is repulsed? » July 29, 2018 7:08 pm

Tyurk
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As some of you know already, my husband addicted to tranny porn/dressing up/anal penetration/ ect with which i have struggled with for years as this slowly came out. Went from a porn addiction to admitting he thinks he is bi (over many years).

So anyway, during our separation and his diving down this road of gay discovery and actually talking to a gay person (A person we both know at a party) he claims he is sure he doesn't want to experiment in real life and he realizes it was all just fantasy. That when this gay guy hit on him he felt gross.

Im even more confused. And he wants us to work our marriage out of course because he nows for sure now he doesnt want that lifestyle, he says.

I feel guilty and pressured to stay now.

What do you all think? How would you feel if your spouse said this to you right now, during their discovery?

Support » I just found out my husband is gay » July 27, 2018 8:17 pm

Tyurk
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Zepporah wrote:

I also tried to pleasure him sexually in a "gay" way. I think I have lost it completely...I mean who does that ?

I did it too. Its what a loving partner does when they are trying to please their mate. And we are scared, shocked, lost and still used to pleasing them and giving them what they want. You deserve better. Take care of yourself. Put yourself first.

Is He/She Gay » Still confused why my ex wanted sex all the time, is this normal? » June 3, 2018 12:03 pm

Tyurk
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Wondering89 wrote:

Hi I think this is a think that confuses a lot of us..
I wonder a lot about this but he told me once he thinks about guys and tranny’s while I’m playing with his dick and I think he does that when we have sex to. He closes his eyes a majority of the time.

Wondering89,
Thats so F***ed up for you to hear. Im sorry. That is not how it should be.

My husband has done the same things as yours except the cl ads. My husband also wanted sex a lot and always came onto me. He admitted to being bi, but hasnt been with a man he says. Its very confusing and hurtful because we are straight. But it comes down to if you want to he with a man who thinks about men while you are having sex with him. Hell no is my answer. That is completely wrong. You should be cherished and lusted after. Take care.

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